A Client's story
Saying "no" to what is not right for you
A client came to see me seeking help to handle stress and her fibromyalgia symptoms. She had a burning pain in the middle of her back which had been there for years. She was 63.
I led her into a hypnosis trance and guided her to explore the subconscious messages being communicated through the sensations in her back, by allowing in and observing the shapes and images she was getting, the language of the subconscious mind.
We explored the emotional charge present for her in those images. She was able to reconnect to an old memory that she had never talked about in all those years, and had never been properly acknowledged and healed.
She connected to memories that brought up a lot of shame, confusion, and vulnerability – a time in her life when she was so young and felt so confused and ashamed that she wasn't able to clearly say “no”, in that case, to the sexual gestures enacted by another young boy during play time. She recalled not even really knowing whether it was “OK” or not.
We worked on hearing all the helplessness, fear and shame. We created a sense of safety and control for her young self, by rewriting a story in which her intuitive knowledge, which told her that those gestures didn't feel “right” for her, was validated.
She was able to claim back her power, say “no” and put a stop to it.
After a while working with the anger that was present beneath the shame and fear, and various others elements in that story, she felt at peace. Her burning pain in the back has shifted and decreased a lot and she was feeling a great deal of relief.
In other sessions we furthered the exploration and the strengthening of her ability to say “no” with ease to what wasn't right for her. Gradually her symptoms and stress diminished and became much more manageable.