Saying "no" to what is not right for you
A client came to see me seeking help to handle stress and her fibromyalgia symptoms. She had a burning pain in the middle of her back which had been there for years. She was 63.
I led her into a trance and guided her to focus deeply on the sensations in her back. I explained to her how to “listen in” to it with shapes and images, the language of the subconscious mind, which would help us work with it. She shared with me what she was perceiving.
We explored these sensations and the emotional charge present for her in those images. Connecting to this, she was able to reconnect to an old memory that she had never talked about in all those years, and had never been properly acknowledged and healed.
It took a few moments for her to articulate.
She connected to memories that brought up a lot of shame, confusion, and vulnerability – a time in her life when she was so young and felt so confused and ashamed that she wasn't able to clearly say “no”, in that case, to the sexual gestures enacted by another young boy during play time. She recalled not even really knowing whether it was “OK” or not.
We worked on hearing all the helplessness, fear and shame. We created a sense of safety and control for her young self, by rewriting a story in which her intuitive knowledge, which told her that those gestures didn't feel “right” for her, was validated.
She was able to claim back her power, say “no” and put a stop to it.
In a trance state, like in hypnosis, the subconscious mind can't tell the difference between what is imagined and what actually happened. To some extent, all that is active within us and creating pain (or joy) are stories or interpretations of events. It is possible to change our emotional landscapes completely by anchoring new stories in an altered state of consciousness, even to some extent in self-hypnosis or creative visualisation.
Anyone who tries it with a skilled professional can have experiential evidence that it "works" -- simply by witnessing how differently they feel within.
After a while working with the anger that was present beneath the shame and fear, and various others elements in that story, she felt at peace. Her burning pain in the back has shifted and decreased a lot and she was feeling a great deal of relief.
In other sessions we furthered the exploration and the strengthening of her ability to say “no” with ease to what wasn't right for her. Gradually her symptoms and stress diminished and became much more manageable.